Thursday, July 03, 2008

waiting game



Midsummer blooms like a tigerlily, and with it come the longest afternoons of the year. Our livingroom is cool, our windows caressed by bright and dark leaf shadows. Outside a lawnmower drones like an insect, and the UPS man buzzes the front door. Today our diaper bags arrive. Mine is a green messenger bag with purple flames. Hers is a Chinese red with orange flowers. The cats eye them with interest, as new scratching pads.

We are waiting, waiting for the Little Nipper. Margo's belly is huge, jutting out in front of her at a right angle. Now it sails before her, its fleshy prow impossible to minimize. Even the largest maternity top makes it look as if she is wearing a tablecloth, because the the distance between the bottom of the shirt and her body is so great. Yesterday she ran away from the neighbor across the street whose garage we rent, because he is an old man, and Margo doesn't feel like answering questions about being pregnant. Last night I laid a fork on her belly at the top of it, where it plateaus, and she asked me tartly whether I was trying to be funny.

Sometimes she wants soft serve at 9pm. Sometimes I come home and she is in tears. This afternoon I found her happily working on her book, lying on the couch, her shirt pulled up to expose a vast, undulating dome. Her torso is a crystal ball inverted, its clouds and shadows pushing from within. We sit and gaze at it, resting our hands on its sides, asking the baby in there our ouija questions.

When I am at work she text messages me her ideas about labor and delivery. Today she asked whether I thought "Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?" would be a good distraction movie. I thought it was an inspired choice. In the movie the childless academic couple who terrorize new faculty after a late-night party by drinking themselves to viciousness and playing Hump the Host refer to their imaginary son as the Little Nipper. I sometimes think we decided to have a baby so as not to become this older academic couple, drinking too much, nagging each other, creating bitterly destructive parodies of heteronormativity in order to re-animate the dying embers of our relationship. Other times I think we just wanted something more simple and joyous than work in our lives, because children make you remember feeling hopeful.

For now, we wait. The air is cool as the early evening comes in. I type at the keyboard, wondering when the baby will come, and how it will change our lives. I think about the drowsiness of middle age, and the peace we know now, and the clamor and noise and activity that our lives will take on soon. The cats crouch at my elbows, eager to be fed. Margo dozes on the couch, her head drooping on the pillow, dreaming of grace.

7 comments:

Weezy said...

Yaaaay for waiting. I have to admit, I have been so curious about how things are going but was sort of afraid to ask. Good wishes and blessings from this corner of the world :)

What Now? said...

I'm so pleased for both of you; I can't wait to read baby blog posts when the time comes!

m(mmm) said...

Wow! That's certainly a different look for Margo. Consider me in solidarity with dreams of grace.

Wishing you two all the best . . .

Lawfrog said...

I am very excited for you both! I hope labor is as easy as it's possible for it to be. I can't wait to see the finished "work product.";)

I thought of you and Margo the other day when I was watching a discovery health show about two women who had been together for many years and decided to have children. They used the eggs of one of the women, but implanted two eggs in one and two eggs in the other to have the best chance of conception.

You guessed it - both eggs took so they ended up with both of them pregnant with twins! They delivered one day apart and ended up with quadruplets.:)

They both have very supportive families though so everyone helped with nursery prep and baby care and such.

lil'rumpus said...

Can't wait for more news about the Little nipper!

adjunct whore said...

margo looks beautiful...waiting is so difficult....is Grace her potential name?

waiting to hear the news....xo, adjunct whore

Luches said...

The drowsiness of middle age? Tell that to my unconscious, generator of a bottomless cut of anxiety. But today my unconscious is probably at a matinée of Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf(inspired choice!).
Of course you remember that Martha and George have an *imaginary* child, which is one of the evidences that an atrophied imaginary wrote that play, as though if they'd only had a real child it would concentrate in itself all of the childish acting out that was then distributed amongst the adults.

Great post! smooch!